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At a crossroads

  • Written by Nelson T. Dy
  • Published in Opinion
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It makes sense

DEAR Mr. Dy: I resigned from a banking job after only five months. I just focused on all the negatives. Now I feel bad that I can’t send money regularly to my family in the province. I thought I would be happy if I leave but it was the opposite. But I’m trying to move on.  I just applied to two companies after my resignation and I was accepted by both. Now I’m so confused. The first one is with an international company as a research analyst. It’s like my dream job because ever since college I want to work in a multinational company. But I will be assigned to the night shift. The other one is with another local bank because my parents still want me to work in a bank. I still don’t have the decision. Please help me!

My response: Before we explore those new opportunities, may I suggest a more strategic need is to diagnose yourself? How can you grow as a person? Specifically, why are you so swayed by negative emotions? If you keep making the same mistakes, no matter which job you will take, you can easily get unhappy and resign again. You would have just wasted your time. Before you know it, you’re 30 and still in career wilderness!

Thus, the next step in your career journey is to grow in emotional maturity. Top of the list is to draw near to God and ask for His strength and grace. Read the Bible; I would suggest the practical wisdom in the book of Proverbs. Then recruit some wise and godly mentors who can help steer you towards the right direction.

Now let’s work out your career decisions. True, it is not always where your parents want you to work. But it is not always where you want to be, either. The reason is that making a career choices uses both mind and heart. Why are you enamored with working for a multinational? Do you have what it takes in being a research analyst? Would you be happy in night shifts?
   
I won’t say whether that international firm or local bank is right for you. The best person to make the decision is still you. Let me suggest the following questions:
   
(1) What tasks am I really great at? (2) What tasks do I really enjoy?  (3) Then, combine your answers to questions 1 and 2. What is the career track where I enjoy doing what I am really good at?
   
After this exercise, you may realize that you don’t take a job offer just because the employer is a multinational. It is possible you will be unhappy with being a research analyst because it is not consistent with your skills and passions.
   
On the other hand, the local bank may be the smarter move not because it is what your parents want, but because you will be productive and satisfied there.
       
So go through the three questions above. Then make the call. Don’t worry about making the wrong choice. Anxiety leads to analysis paralysis. Then no matter where you land, do a great job now so that someday you can command a higher pay and better hours.

Hope these help. Please keep in touch.

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